25 Things I Learnt at 25

I know you wouldn’t think it from my youthful appearance (haha), but I’m actually pretty old now. Verging on ancient, some might say. In all my years, I finally feel like this year I’ve come to grips with myself and learnt a few life lessons or two. So without further ado, here are the 25 Things I Learnt at 25.

25 Things I Learnt at 25

  1. I couldn’t survive without the internet

This is pretty downright awful, but EVERYTHING I do revolves around the internet. And I’m not just talking blogging, vlogging, streaming, tweeting and the rest of it… I’m talking during my 9 to 5, too. I cannot imagine an office job with no internet – seriously, what did people do back in the day?!

  1. YouTube is the best place to learn new skills

Want to know how to fade those clips into each other on Premier Pro? YouTube. Looking for the best photo editing hacks? YouTube. Want to verify how to correctly make bread pudding? YouTube. YouGet the picture?

  1. Twitter is quite good, actually

Twitter was my occasional host for linked Instagram pictures. Now it’s a breeding ground of creativity, friendship, late night chats and frantically checking my notifications when I turn my phone on in the morning. And all in the space of 4 months! Bye, bye Facebook.

  1. It’s best to bite your tongue on social media

Several times I’ve found myself hovering over the Tweet button about to rant and rave, then I realise, who cares? I don’t need overtly strong opinions rubbed repeatedly in my face when it comes to social media. Only acceptable if it involves face palming over Donald Trump, k?

  1. It is easy to make new friends, afterall

Once I finished university, I thought it was impossible to make new friends. I’d always try and look for clubs and societies, but the real world just isn’t as easy as uni. Finally, like some kind of fairy tale, I found the wonderful world of the Disney and Blogging Twitter community – and I’ve made so many new friends, both in person and online.

  1. It’s also easy to neglect the ones you have

Unfortunately, I barely have the time to fit anything new into my life so often that means it comes at the price of losing something old. Seriously, I met up with a school friend in June, we talked about arranging a second meet up and I’m STILL yet to put something solid in the diary.

  1. It’s not ok to assume people know how grateful you are

When I need to do photography for my blog, I tell Liam exactly the post I’m doing, the photoshoot I want to do, and the details of when we’ll do it. I tell him. I don’t ask him. And over the weekend, he pointed out to me that I never say thank you. He doesn’t have to do it, and I am grateful. I guess I just assume he knows I’m grateful – that is so not ok.

  1. The thought of the gym is way worse than the act of being at the gym

The sheer dread of having to put my gym clothes on at the end of the working day and proceed straight to the gym (do not pass go or collect £200) is THE WORST. But once you’re in the gym, and you’re Zumba-ing or Les Mills-ing it up, it’s a blast. I need to remember this at all times.

  1. Skipping the gym always, always equals a boring, wasted evening

When I’m on a roll I go to the gym 6 days a week. When I’m not on a roll I’m on the sofa… eating. And I’m always so bored. It’ll get to about 8pm (which is when I’d normally be home from the gym), and I’ll realise it feels like I’ve been sat on the sofa doing nothing for about 10 hours. Such a pointless waste of time.

  1. When you’re working towards a goal (and working full time), the weekend is often just an extension of the work week

I have major skills I want to build, goals I’m working towards, and content I’m creating. That means on a Saturday I ‘work’ until 5pm or 6pm to make sure I get everything finished. Even my ‘down time’ sometimes involves some aspect of work – for example, a stroll in the park could be a chance to photograph a new outfit. Short term, it’s tiring, long term however, is endless possibilities.

  1. Things worth having are never easy to attain

Remember those goals I mentioned I’m working towards, and the fact I don’t really ever get a weekend? Yeah, it’s draining, but those goals are everything I want to have in life, and it’s going to take a hell of a lot of effort to reach them but hard work is what it takes. It’s always worth it in the end.

  1. Time management is everything

Time management is the only thing I can do to keep myself on track. I’ve been known to timetable out my whole week. But for me, personally, it’s the only way I can ensure I’m ticking off everything on my to do list. Plus, I honestly kind of like a piece of paper keeping me on track.

  1. When it comes to work, put your all in and keep your head down

There are a few things I’ve learnt over the past 4 years in a 9-to-5 job. Keep your head down and make sure you only get noticed for the right reasons. Loyalty doesn’t exist in the eyes of big business. Do everything you can to boost your skills, and take all the opportunities you’re offered – whilst you can.

  1. Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone is the best thing you can do

I’m an introvert, ok? I’ve made it my mission the last few months to go to meets, day trips alone and blogger events, meet new people and even make friends. These things are alien to me. But I’m a better, more confident and happy person because I’ve done these things. And hey, there’s still plenty of time to sit at home alone with a good book.

  1. The buzz of having a full diary and events galore

On the coat tails of number 14, there is something utterly exhilarating about booking up 3 months’ worth of activities in the space of a couple of weeks! I’ve got meet ups and days out aplenty, I’ve got blog events and schedules galore, you want free time? I’ve got none! But who cares, no big deal, I don’t want mooooore. (P.S. I applaud you if you get that reference!)

  1. Don’t ask, don’t get

Yes, I find it painfully embarrassing to reply to a #bloggerswanted or enter some kindof giveaway that involves posting specific tweets – just in case someone sees me being ignored or I fail spectacularly. But in life, if you don’t ask (or at least try), you don’t get! I still haven’t phoned up Sky to complain about our nightmarishly slow internet and ask for a free upgrade though.

  1. I will always think of myself as younger

When I think of myself, I realised this year I still think of myself as about 20 years old. This confirms to me that a) I am now hideously old, and b) this is what old people mean when they say they don’t feel a day over so-and-so age.

  1. I still don’t, and probably never will, know what I want to do with my life. But that’s ok

This used to get me restless and keep me up at night, why did I never feel content with anything I did? Why did it feel like I was just ‘passing time’ with job roles? Why did I flit between hobbies so often? Now I realise it’s just one of those things. Most people never really figure it out. The best thing I can do is work for what makes me happy in that moment.

  1. I am, and always will be, awkward – but so are most people

I am painfully awkward, in social situations, at work, when I attend events. I say weird things, just generally behave oddly, or over-analyse a situation until it hurts. But now I realise everyone is awkward. Over the past year, particularly in work situations, I listen to something someone says and then think: ‘Well that’s actually kind of weird’ – but I don’t judge people! And I now know no one is judging me. Everything is NOT awesome. Everything is awkward.

  1. Debt is just the worst

Ugh. Let’s not even go there.

  1. Being home alone for an entire weekend isn’t the worst thing

This would have been my worst nightmare, and I still get bored at the drop of a hat, but weekends alone are brilliant. I can get caught up on stuff without feeling guilty for neglecting Liam, I can sit in my pyjamas all weekend judgement free, I can cook, and bake, and watch whatever I want. And most importantly, I CAN LEAVE THE ROUTER PLUGGED IN ALL WEEKEND (because Liam forces us to turn it off every evening at bedtime).

  1. My life would be severely stunted if I didn’t have my fiancé

I am stunted in more ways than one, and it occurred to me today that if I didn’t have Liam, I would be so, so ruined. I don’t talk about my feelings, my problems, my priorities or my thoughts to anyone other than him – I’m not an ‘open’ kind of person. It’s hard to open up. If I didn’t have him, I feel like my voice would be gone.

  1. Life can be as good as it was at uni, just in a different way

Our entire bench mark for life used to be to get back to how we were at uni, no work, no schedules, do what we want, have fun, be happy. Now we both realise that was great, but it’s never going to happen again, and we can still be just as happy in a different kind of life.

  1. Your wellbeing should always come ahead of your ‘schedule’

I had a phase of obsessively churning out blog content (I somehow posted 21 blogs in August like whaaat the hey?!). Let’s not forget I also have a full time job. Along with trying to go to the gym 6 days a week. I honestly bled myself dry, and it just resulted in me having a massive break down. Hey, I love writing and editing – but I’d prefer to be healthy, ok?

  1. Happiness is everything

I don’t think this needs explaining. At a quarter of a century, I’ve got this one nailed.

So what do you think – are there any you agree with? Perhaps you disagree?! Let me know what you’ve learnt over the years!

This post was inspired by Becca Jane, and you can find her original take on it here.

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